Self-help Strategies for Building Confidence and Self-esteem

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”

Wise words from Bernard M. Baruch concerning confidence and self-esteem. It is imperative to be confident and know we are enough just as we are. In this post, we've handpicked self-help strategies to help us boost self-confidence and build self-esteem. Whether you lack confidence in one specific area or struggle with a general lack of self-confidence, these tips can help.

1) Don't Compare Yourself to Others

Do you assess your appearance compared to those you follow on social media?

Or perhaps you make a comparison with your friend. Comparing ourselves to others is natural; however, a wise man once said, “Comparison is the thief of contentment,” and that quote could not be more accurate. By comparing ourselves to others, we often lose sight of who we are and become more critical and less appreciative of ourselves. To combat these thoughts, remind yourself that life is not a race. And, if you must compete, ensure that your sole competitor is the person in the mirror whom you should aim to improve daily. This can be beneficial in helping you to maintain focus on your accomplishments and avoid envy. Ensure that you celebrate your achievements and talents daily. Also, consider cultivating a habit of journaling and recording those things you are most grateful for. And while you're at it, remember, there's only one you, so be sure to make that your authentic self.

2) Surround Yourself With Positive People

We must be mindful of the people we allow in our space. The truth is that some people are takers, and takers tend to take until there is nothing left. So, it is essential to surround yourself with people who uplift your spirit, contribute to your mental wellness, and elevate you. Find people that can boost your confidence and who are optimistic. Positivity is contagious and goes in tandem with self-assurance.

3) Take care of your body

You'll automatically feel more confident when you practice self-care because you know you care for your mind, body, and spirit. Whether through mindful eating, meditation practice, sleep, or exercise, caring for yourself is essential for building self-confidence and boosting self-esteem. When we look and feel good, there's simply no stopping us!

4) Be kind to yourself

Being kind to yourself is crucial and goes a long way. This practice assists with maintaining the balanced emotions necessary for navigating life's complex landscape. When you practice being kind to yourself, you don’t badger yourself for making a mistake, failing, or experiencing a setback. Instead, you abandon the fool's folly of pursuing perfection and accept that such experiences allow us to grow and are a natural part of this life's journey.

5) Practice words of affirmation

Figure out a strategy to silence and transform irrational thoughts into words of affirmation. Here are a few instances of how to combat negative thoughts and shift your perspective into a more optimistic frame of mind, boosting your self-assurance in the process:

• I am loved

• I am beautiful

• I am safe

• I am free

• Today I will accept what I cannot change and embrace the challenge to change what I can.

Being self-confident doesn't just feel good. It is good! Infinite advantages await in work, life, and play when we trust ourselves and walk in bold confidence. Be gentle with yourself. Do the best you can with what you have today.

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